I think that most of us miss the point of today's Gospel altogether, or we misrepresent it to suit our own sentimentalized ideas of what it truly means to be Christian. There is unity to be found in Christianity, but it is a unity that is found based on the acceptance of the Father's will, not our own. Those who live according to their own standards might find a temporal acceptance from society and the superficial, but Christians living for Christ will always be divided from that human idea of Christianity and they will always be shunned and demonized by the culture.
It is okay, Jesus did come to divide but for those who live in his love and Truth, he reigns as the Prince of Peace. You see, Jesus gives us an inner spiritual peace, that cannot be found in this world. It can only be found from within. It cannot be found separate from Christ, who is Truth itself. So, if we are not united with Christ and the Father's Divine will, we will always be divided to some degree from Christ and the Father.
We must stop looking to satisfy our own wants and desires and instead focus on the Will of the Father, and when we do we will find the Peace that Christ came to give those who are in union with Him and His Church. We can find peace even in the Cross, His and our own, if we bear them together for the Glory of the Father and don't bow down to the earthly delights found in a devotion to this world and her inhabitants, because honestly this world has no clue what true peace really is, and never will.
How I wish it were blazing already! Luke 12:49-53
Jesus said to his disciples: ‘I have come to bring fire to the earth, and how I wish it were blazing already! There is a baptism I must still receive, and how great is my distress till it is over!
‘Do you suppose that I am here to bring peace on earth? No, I tell you, but rather division. For from now on a household of five will be divided: three against two and two against three; the father divided against the son, son against father, mother against daughter, daughter against mother, mother-in-law against daughter-in-law, daughter-in-law against mother-in-law.’