Following in Their Footsteps—Sitting in Their Wheelchair
Why People Do What They Do!
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Step 4 on this Journey of Walking into Wellness.
In year 25 of our marriage---God led me to WANT to be divorced. Yes that is right ---God led me in the direction to NOT stay in our marriage as it was. (Read the book---"My Journey My Cross" for the details.)
His Words received, after much prayer and others praying for me---"Do not stay in this marriage as it is, be open and honest with your husband ---and walk into wellness!"
Those same words are what you need to apply to your life. Do not stay in the misery you are in. Be OPEN AND HONEST with yourself, and walk into wellness with God at your side.
Now, to save the marriage, we were led to counseling and then led to a perfect Christian counselor. If you are not getting counseling ---pray for God to lead you to the right one for you to start getting the professional help many need to get past traumatic events.
Be open and honest. The word, DENIAL was mentioned, that is a great obstacle to healing---yes, DENIAL. The one way to get well is to be honest and admit---I HAVE SOME behaviors or attitudes that STINK TOO!
What is the best way to see what is wrong with you? Make a list of all the things other people do that infuriate, aggravate, or anger you. You read right. This works, I know for that is what God said to do as I dealt with MOTHER-IN-LAW issues! God sneakily got me to realize my faults by having me list my mother-in-laws actions that made me so mad. He said to confess them as my sins, bring them to His Cross and seek forgiveness. After listing about 10 or 12 behaviors, I realized ---"OH MY GOD --they are my sins --my behaviors!!'
Strange as it seems---what we see or hate in others --we can find in our own selves. We are all human. We all have the same emotions, and we all have free will to choose how we act or respond to other's behaviors. We all have fallen short, and all have become very angry and hateful at times.
So proceed then, draw away, and write down the list of ALL the things people do that make you mad!! Then ask God to show you why or how those behaviors trigger within you deep anger or resentment. He will be gentle and lead to you a memory of being traumatized that you have buried deeply. Keep on writing what comes, and use the weaker hand to really see the truth that needs to be seen. For, dearly beloved child of God--
"WITH KNOWLEDGE COMES UNDERSTANDING. WITH UNDERSTANDING COMES WISDOM, AND PEACE."
From St. Pope John Paul's Spiritual Advice book--for this day--May 26th: "The meeting with Jesus is...the event which gives meaning to human life and profoundly alters it, by opening the spirit to horizons of authentic FREEDOM."
Our Lord waits for you with His healing graces to lead you on right paths as you walk through dark valleys into Wellness. "Come unto Me, you who are heavily burdened and I will give you rest."
Final chapter coming soon.
About the Author
Born the youngest of nine children, raised VERY Catholic across the street from our church and school—Mom and Dad led by example and word their FAITH in God and saw to it that I was given 12 years of Catholic Education. (Mount St. Mary’s Academy/1965)
But, most importantly, because of my parents’ spiritual renewal after attending Cursillo Weekends, I too went on a retreat at our beloved Subiaco Abbey in Arkansas and there, at age 20, gave my life totally, surrendering all to my Lord and best Friend. This was my “Pentecostal” event that left me, like all the early Christians, on fire with God’s love and forever changed.
My husband Robert and I have been married for 50 this year in a marriage arranged by God. We have 8 children, two in heaven, 24 grandchildren, and 15 great-grandchildren. The story of our life together can be found in a book titled “My Journey, My Cross-As the Journals End,” published by Westbow Press . Our life together has been one awesome up and down roller coaster ride which enriched my heart with so many of the gifts of the Holy Spirit. I have found that the only way, Wisdom, Understanding, Words of Knowledge, Discernment, and Healing can be received is first by experiencing in your life the hurts of others. (and you yourself a sword will pierce)* so that the thoughts of many hearts may be revealed.” Luke 2 v 35.
God has blessed me also many other talents and skills--but sometimes, blessings/gifts can and have caused problems or conflict in my life, as I am human and all too quickly that part of me shows up. Thank You God that You also show up!
Because of the many ways that He has rescued me, and taught me through my trials and tribulations and continuous cries for “Help”--- a weekly podcast radio show called “It’s Me, God” can still be found on www.radiotitans.com
