Reaching out to one who has been abused
There are more numbers of abused children than we may be aware of and the results have contaminated their faith to a point of rejecting the church. Unfortunately, quite a few of us probably know someone who is living the evil of the actions of a pedaphilia encounter. However, if one who had that experience approaches us seeking solace, consider it a blessing. Of course even psychiatrists might have difficulty starting healing since most appear completely turned off from the church, priests, and maybe God as well. They have been violated by a priest, most at a young age, where their trust in a spiritual advisor turned out to be a demon in disguise.
The last thing they will expect is for another cleric to reach out and will probably turn them further away from their faith. Whoever becomes a listening ear for them, avoid trying to convince them to get back to church, immediately. That is where the abuse began, and it will only bring memories to the surface. There is no doubt that the abuser threatened them with some false premise that they were now in Mortal sin and could only be absolved by them. At that innocent age, in spite of being too young and too far removed with theology to know this is all lies, they will succumb to the words of the priest, or another adult.
You must assure them that there never was a sin committed by them, regardless of what the pedaphil told them. Next, guide them towards an invitation to pray to the Blessed Mother since she is the one person who is a patron of Purity and will reach out to her Son, Jesus Christ. Why, you may ask, not just suggest going to Jesus? Simple! The connection to Christ is so similar that this may bring up past occurrences and turn them away. Also, their mother is usually the one person young boys will reach out to especially when something painful arises. The Blessed Mother fits that role perfectly.
I was made aware of a similar situation as well, and have asked God to show me how to approach this since only one or two know the situation. I am not one of them. The Lord assured me the Holy Spirit will show me what and how to reach him. This thought, above, has me turning without sleep and at least may be the one way to use a beginning solution. The only challenge will be the approach since he doesn’t know that I was informed by his closest relative. He refuses to attend Church or even speak of it. They were recently married and having children baptized now may create further difficulties.
This situation is extremely similar to thousands of abused children, with most of them now adults. The results of many have been revealed to me by wives and their husbands are not what they could have been. Suicides also are prevalent with far too many. Reaching them will not be easy, and create another ministry for those whom God is calling.
Ralph B. Hatha