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Response to the article3 Reasons to Ditch Santa on Catholic Answers by Drew Belsky
The Catholic moral tradition upholds the principle that lying is inherently sinful, regardless of context or intent. At the same time, Drew Belsky’s critique of Santa Claus in Catholic Answers aligns with this stance, emphasizing the moral dangers of deceit, societal pressure, and misplaced expectations. However, with that being said, I propose a paradoxical yet meaningful exception: while lying is never justified in any other situation, the Santa Claus tradition during Christmas can be uniquely defended as a rare, spiritually enriching practice that aligns with the spirit of the season.
Why Lying is Never Justified
The Catechism of the Catholic Church unequivocally states that lying is intrinsically disordered (CCC 2485). Because truth is foundational to human relationships, it reflects God’s nature: “for He cannot deny Himself” (2 Timothy 2:13). At a point where honesty is tested—such as the famous “Nazis at the door” dilemma—Catholic thinkers argue that cleverness or silence is preferable to untruth.
Thus, this principle safeguards human dignity and trust. But lies, on the other hand, distort reality, severing the speaker and the listener from authentic communion.
The Case for a Singular Exception: Santa Claus
If lying is never permissible, how can we justify the Santa Claus narrative? The answer lies not in redefining lying but, rather, in recognizing the exceptional nature of the Christmas tradition. Unlike ordinary falsehoods, the Santa story is not intended to deceive maliciously but to cultivate a sense of wonder, generosity, and joy that reflects deeper truths of the Christian faith.
1. A Myth That Reveals the Truth
The Santa tradition is a form of participatory storytelling. At the same time, the temporary suspension of literal truth during childhood does not aim to mislead but to spark awe. For this reason, parents perpetuating this myth are not manipulating reality for personal gain but inviting their children into a shared cultural narrative. This aligns with the way fairy tales, parables, and allegories have been used throughout Catholic tradition to point toward transcendent truths.
So, far from undermining the truth, the Santa story can enrich a child’s understanding of divine generosity. When they mature, children can discover the true gift-giver behind Christmas: God Himself, who gives freely and abundantly.
2. The Spirit of Christmas as a Unique Context
Christmas is not just any season—it is the celebration of the Incarnation, when God entered history in a profoundly unexpected and joyful way. Once this is understood, the Santa Claus narrative, in its purest form, echoes this mystery. The deliberate temporary “suspension of reality” surrounding Santa becomes a means to amplify the joy, love, and selflessness that characterize the feast.
Again, just as Christ’s Incarnation surprised the world with its humility and tenderness, the Santa tradition allows children to experience the unexpected delight of unmerited gifts. Therefore, Santa Claus becomes a rare and exceptional case—a practice shaped by the unique cultural and spiritual significance of Christmas.
Addressing Belsky’s Concerns
Belsky’s critiques—about lying to children, societal pressure, and unrealistic expectations—raise important considerations. However, these concerns can be addressed without abandoning the Santa tradition.
The Singular Exception: A Sanctified Suspension of Literal Truth
The Santa Claus tradition, far from undermining Catholic morality, can be viewed as a sanctified exception. It is so intertwined with the joy and mystery of Christmas that it transcends the usual moral considerations surrounding truth-telling. Even though lying is always wrong, this exception highlights the unique, grace-filled nature of the Christmas season.
By participating in the Santa story, Catholic families can teach children the beauty of wonder, the importance of generosity, and the ultimate truth of God’s love—all while ensuring the tradition is eventually passed on with honesty and care.
Conclusion
At the end of this discussion, Belsky’s emphasis on the dangers of dishonesty in everyday life remains valid. However, the Santa Claus tradition is not a lie in the typical sense but a temporary suspension of literal truth. It is designed to communicate joy, generosity, and awe. So, as such, it can be defended as a singular exception—one that uniquely aligns with the meaning of Christmas and deepens a child’s eventual understanding of God’s boundless gift to humanity.