Don't be an enabler....

     I am a fixer. At least in my own mind I am. But when the truth is revealed, I was an enabler. I don't think the normal person likes to see anybody struggle, or have life hard, but there is a difference between caring and enabling. The moment someone cried wolf, the fear kicks in and I believe them. I have, through many upsetting times, been the only one that would listen to the cries of my loved ones or dear friends. Hundreds of dollars and many sleepless nights and tears have been spent in the terror that I was the only one that could fix things. After years of doing this, I finally examined the situation's, realizing that all this time, I had been trying to take over the role of God. Knowing that each person was not in full communion with our Lord. I still tried to fix them. There could be nothing done, if the person is refusing to come back to the safety net and arms of God. It is easy to get manipulated when you have a giving heart. People prey on that. The devil knows our weaknesses and he surely drives that stick of guilt deeper and deeper into us because of this empathy we possess. 

     Enabling someone can become a sin. No amount of money can help them if they continue to choose, from their own free will, what is wrong. God does not want anyone to be addicted to anything other than to Him. The longer a person chooses wrong, the right cannot be seen easily. Yes, that even means having to see them go to rock bottom. The devil will make the guilt so unbearable that you feel like a caged lion pacing back and forth. God is all peace. Anything else is of the evil one. Refuse him. Tell him in Jesus's Holy name to go away. He will. But you yourself must armor your heart with the surrender that He will pull you, or anyone you love through this. The more we choose this, sometimes the more difficult. But God is watching and listening. He promises us that. Believe it! With all that you have inside of you. You will achieve Peace.

     The devil is getting more and more rampant. He will not stop until he has tried each and every one of us to the maximum. But God is "Victor over all demons". He will not abandon us. The devil hates us. Quit falling for the secret whispers he tries to plant in our ears. No one wants to see or hear of someone going down, but sometimes being on the floor is where God finds us. It is up to us to raise our hands and give the S.O.S to Him by choosing His hand instead of the evil ones.

  Be strong and don't be an enabler. The more you enable, the longer it takes. Surrender now to the only one who is the "ultimate fixer"…peace will surely find you and the person who is needing it. Enable yourself if anything, to see the breakthrough God is trying so very hard to allow happen. It will retrieve not only happiness in your heart but prove to God you believe in Him who is the Master of all.